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How does a woman notice you when there are better looking guys in the same room? Is it common sense to say that maybe you should dress like them and you’ll look good as well? The answer is no, that is not the logical thing to do.

Rather than copying someone else’s style and trying to fit in with the crowd, you should stand out completely. If every guy is wearing a black or white shirt in a room, come with a bright red shirt and TRY not to get women’s attention. Women will not be lining up to see and touch your bright red shirt; however, you’ll be surprised how every women will notice your red shirt. Every time she looks your way I guarantee she’ll look at that bright red shirt.

This concept is called Peacocking (introduced to me by Neil Strauss in The Game). Peacocking is using you’re clothing or accessories to stand out in a crowd and catch people’s attention. This can be done with colorful shirts, bright or colorful accessories such as watches, necklaces, bracelets, piercings, hats, stylish shoes, etc. Be creative.

But what exactly is it about your style that attracts a woman. Peacocking doesn’t just capture a woman’s eye because you have something bright on you that’s hard not to notice. Peacocking allows you to communicate certain qualities about yourself without even talking to the person. Wearing a bright red shirt when everyone else is wearing black says to other people, “I am confident enough to wear something different and if you don’t like it, take a walk.” This shows that you’re self-confident, unique, interesting, and so far, a good catch.

One of my Peacocking accessories is a simple leather necklace with a key attached to it. I bought it at American Eagle, and hang it loosely around my neck. It may sound weird to go out with a key hanging around my neck, but you have no idea how many girls have asked me about it. It’s usually either “Why do you have a key around your neck” or “Does it have a meaning”. And what do I answer back to them? Whatever crosses my mind. It doesn’t really matter what you say back, just as long as you’re friendly and smile. Here’s an example.
At a house party:

Heather: Why do you have a key around your neck? Is it your dorm key? (Turns to her friend and giggles)

Me: Actually it’s the key to your heart, but I’m probably throwing it away later. Or maybe I’ll give it to that guy. (I point at some random guy and smile back at Heather)

Heather: (With a flirtatious tone and bit of attitude) What, am I not good enough for you?

Me: Actually I hope you are good enough for me. Why don’t we sit down and find out?

(She agrees, so I grab her hand and take her to a couch)
(30 minutes later we were making out)

Notice how Heather found my necklace so interesting she had to ask me about it. That is the purpose of Peacocking. Find something to wear that will make you different and interesting. Remember, if she thinks you LOOK like everyone else, then she thinks you ARE like everyone else. Women want something different, so be different.

If you have any questions, concerns, or recommendations feel free to email me at: YourDatingCollege@Hotmail.com